Are you a dreamer or a doer?
When you’re engaged in the art of dream-making, do you primarily consider the future or the past? Do you take care of your dreams, or are you consumed by their weight?
I’m not sure if this is the appropriate analogy to make here, as some of you may be more doers than dreamers. But, whether you are a doer or a dreamer, if you aren’t primarily concerned with your dreams, you aren’t truly engaged in the art of dream-making.
1. How do you know if you aren’t primarily concerned with your dreams or if you’re engaged in the art of dream-making?
If you want to see something different than where you are, then you need to do something to get to where you want to be. There are no shortcuts to attaining your dreams. You have to take a bit of a leap of faith. However, if you take the leap of faith and undertake something to move you to where you want to be, then you’re engaging in the art of dream-making.
The only way to see the future, or to plan for the future, or to actually achieve something, is to take an active role in the making of your future. And the only way you can take an active role in the making of your future is to be primarily concerned with your dreams.
Here’s the analogy again:
If you want to see New York City, then you need to plan where to go and where to find the resources to get there. The resources may include an airplane ticket or bus pass or subway card or car rental. You need to do something to get to New York City. The resources may include a cheap flight or a expensive one. But, if you’re primarily concerned with New York City, then you’re engaging in the art of dream-making.
So, really, the only way to “participate in the art of dream-making” is to be concerned with your dreams. If you’re not, then you don’t have a reason to even try to make dreams come true.
This is not to say that you cannot have any dream you want. It’s just to say that if you want something in the real world, then you have to do something to achieve it. You cannot have a house in Queens or a house in Brooklyn or a house in Florida or a house in Alabama with the resources of New York City’s resources and just hope that you get there. You must do something to make it happen.
The question now becomes: how do you do that?
1. I suggest that you begin with where you are now. Why are you where you are now? What has brought you to this place?
2. Start by being completely honest with yourself. Be completely honest with your dreams. Be honest with the resources that currently support those dreams. What has contributed to your current situation? What has kept you from your dreams?
3. Next, be honest with the decisions that have kept you from your dreams. Tell the whole truth, nothing ever good. Tell the truth about how you felt when you made the decision to not pursue that dream, or not take that step. Tell the truth about whether or not you have the resources to pursue your dream. What actually stood in your way? How did you get to this point? Are you satisfied now? How can you change course? What is stopping you from changing course?
4. Next, look at all of the resources that are currently available to you. What are the things that currently support your dream? What are the things that currently cut you off from that dream? Be honest about how you feel about those resources. Do you think you could manage the resources now? Be honest about how the resources might impact your current lifestyle, your current health or your current material comfort?
5. Next, find the positive things about the resources you currently have, even if it’s only one positive thing. Why are you doing this? How can you make that one positive change a part of your life? What can you do with that one positive element?
6. Once you have identified the positive resources, look at how they currently support your dream. Do they support your dream in any way that will make that dream a reality? If not, how can you keep them that way? What can you do to keep the dream that supported you in current existence?
7. Finally, think about all of the negative resources available to you. Think honestly about how they currently impact your life. Do they impact your life in any way that will cut you off from your dream? If so, how can you reduce or eliminate their impact on your life? What can you do to keep the negative resource as far away from your dream as possible?
8. Now take a look at all of the resources available to you that will support you in achieving the dream that is supporting you right now. What do you have that no one else does? What else do you need? How can you access and use that resource to support you in reaching your dream? What is your dream?
This isn’t always easy. A lot of it is subjective. But I would encourage you to give it a try. Don’t let the fact that it is hard be the determining factor in what you do.